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Tuesday, 18 May 2010

  • Notes from a Northerner # 101

    I knew I'd grown increasingly acclimated to the South, when I pulled down my attic steps, and a dying, half-roasted, three-inch cockroach fell into my hair and landed on the floor. The last time I saw one that big, I screamed. You couldn't get me within ten feet of one. This time, I sprayed him with roach killer until he died, and swept him into a dustpan. I am growing as a person. :)

Thursday, 13 May 2010

  • 365 Days

    A year may be just a split second in God's eyes, but to a mere mortal, it can seem to last forever. For our family, the past year has been one for the record books.

    On May 13, 2009, our two-year-old, William, fell at church and crushed his trachea. After phenomenal life-saving actions employed by the childcare workers and the volunteer medical team at our church, William was taken to LeBonheur Children's Medical Center, where he underwent emergency surgery to repair his trachea. Eleven days later, he was discharged from the hospital, and was sent home with a van full of tracheostomy care equipment. Six weeks after his injury, the injury had healed and the trach was removed. Within a few more weeks, the trach hole had healed over as well.

    In past FB notes, I have described the incredible miracles that took place in the process of William's rescue and surgery, as well as his recovery period. There is no question that he had an incredible surgeon, and that the hospital care team was excellent. The team that transported William in the ambulance made all the right decisions, and delivered him to the hospital in stable condition. Penny Williams and the childcare staff acted quickly and decisively to get William to the nurse's station where he could receive immediate care. These people all played a vital part in saving William's life. But I haven't talked about the real hero that God placed in William's path that day. I haven't done so, because until Tuesday, I didn't have all the pieces to the puzzle.

    One question that the surgeons asked me more than once while William was in recovery was, how long was it between the actual injury and William's arrival at the hospital? The reason for their question is based in science and medicine: any severe trauma to the trachea is expected to result in the area becoming inflamed. It is not uncommon for someone to badly injure their trachea, feel better for a few minutes, and then suddenly asphyxiate and die. This happens because within about thirty minutes of such an injury, the trachea swells up and blocks any airway. If a breathing tube isn't inserted before the swelling occurs, there may not be time to save the patient. William crushed the cartilage in his trachea, the smallest part of the airway. Any swelling should have closed off that area first, both due to its tiny circumference and the point of injury. My answer to the surgeons was that as best I could tell from the various accounts I'd heard, William made it to the hospital within 40 to 50 minutes of his injury. The look in their eyes told me this was not soon enough. And yet, when he arrived, he was able to be intubated before any significant loss of oxygen to the brain. Later CT scans to the brain showed no long-term effects whatsoever. A second full-body scan was equally clean. When they went in to do surgery, they were able to see the injured area and fix it. A trach tube was inserted in his throat below the injury to give that area time to heal, and of course, to allow the swelling that finally did occur, to subside. Why didn't William asphyxiate before he even arrived in the ER? And how did he survive without brain damage? It was a miracle.

    The miracle was in the form of an EMT volunteer at Bellevue named David Chadwick. Mr. Chadwick will modestly insist that William is alive today due to the efforts of the entire first response team, and he's partly right. Each person involved was in exactly the right place at the right time.

    Holly Irving, a volunteer in the children's department at Bellevue Baptist, was not normally assigned to William's classroom. One of the regular teachers was out, so she was filling in. After William fell down, he stood up and put up his arms to her. She saw his distress and carried him into the hallway, handing him to the first volunteer she saw, Penny Williams.

    Penny wasn't supposed to be there, either. She was expected in another part of the church at the time. But God put her in that hallway, because she would know what to do next. Penny's daughter had spent much time at LeBonheur with a heart condition, and had needed a tracheostomy at one point. Penny saw that William was turning color, and could tell that air was escaping from his trachea into the surrounding tissues. She attempted CPR, and the air would not push through, so she recognized that there was a blockage. His neck had a red line across it, and the shape of it wasn't right. She alerted the children's department that he needed to see the nurse, immediately!

    Gwen Kaluzny, the department director over childcare, Paula Hise, her assistant, and Shari Raynor, the coordinator for the department, all flew into action. The preferred procedure was to have the nurse come to the children's hallway, in order to keep the area secure and not remove the child. But Penny saw that there wasn't time to wait. Paula ran ahead of her to clear the way, and somebody called ahead to the nurse's station, where Catherine Mills, an RN, was on duty. Penny was wearing sandals, and kicked them off so she could run at full speed. William was held against her shoulder. The emergency personnel suggested to me later that the jolting of William's chest against her during Penny's full-out run may have helped keep his lungs pumping as best they could through the injury.

    David Chadwick was sitting in the service when he heard a chatter on the radio he wore. A child was on his way to the nurse's station, and might not be breathing. He stood up and quickly made his way to the back of the sanctuary, where he arrived at the same time as Penny and William. Catherine Mills sprang into action, working over William as Penny held him in her lap. The room was filled with frantic women and a desperate child, as Mr. Chadwick assessed the situation. William was scratching at his shirt, and at Penny's, fighting to breathe. His color was gray, and his eyes rolled back in his head a couple of times, before he came to again. It was at this time that Mr. Chadwick heard what he called "a still small voice from God." This boy didn't just need oxygen; he needed a breathing treatment.

    The nurse's station held a variety of emergency care equipment, including albuterol for asthma attacks or other bronchial issues. The doctor in charge also liked to keep xopenex on hand for children, which is considered the "mirror image" of albuterol. This is what David Chadwick reached for. He put a mask on William that had very few openings for the treatment to dissipate, so that most of the breathing treatment along with the pure oxygen went right into his lungs. This is when William started to relax. When the paramedics arrived, they strapped him on a child-sized body board, where he lay relatively calmly until he arrived at the hospital.

    In the hospital, William appeared so calm that the ER nurses removed him from the board and let him sit up. William's injured trachea closed up even more, and he struggled again to breathe. He began to throw himself around the room, fighting for air. One of the paramedics shouted to a nurse he knew to get a doctor "NOW" and she reached over and yanked at the first doctor she saw. It took several people to hold William down. They attempted to give him an emergency tracheostomy, which on a child is difficult in surgery, much less on a wide-awake and panicked one. The attempt was aborted, and a tube was inserted orally instead. It went through without causing additional injury, long after his trachea should have been completely swollen shut. William began to breathe again through the tube. They were then able to prep him for surgery and successfully performed a tracheostomy and repaired the injury.

    Had it not been for the quick thinking of David Chadwick, William would not have survived long enough for his skilled surgeon to repair his injury. The efforts of the childcare workers, emergency dispatchers, and paramedics would have been in vain, had he not been given the breathing treatment that saved his life. This is so significant, that what Mr. Chadwick did may be officially put into the procedural manuals in the future. The medical community has lauded him for thinking outside the box, even as he carefully followed written procedures.

    And on Tuesday of this week, the entire first response team received a Star of Life Award for the 8th district in Tennessee. We went to Nashville with William and the team to see them win their award, and were thrilled to learn that William's team also won the Star of Life Award for the entire state of Tennessee. (John's Facebook Photos contains an album of the event.)

    This event has understandably been the focal point of our year. We will never, ever forget the miracle that happened to us. The Star of Life certificate William received this week commemorating the first day of the rest of his life will serve to remind us. To God be the glory, great things He has done.

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    William, being held by David Chadwick, EMT-P, FF Paremedic at the Star of Life Awards.

     

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Friday, 16 April 2010

  • Silly Bands Aren't for Sissies

    When I was a kid, the craze was friendship bracelets. You would get the different-colored strands, and braid them in the perfect individualized color scheme for your friends. Everyone wore them. You achieved status by having friends who could do intricate braids, and by wearing several on each arm or ankle. Today, it is silly bands--plastic bracelets that snap back into the shape of an animal or character when you take them off. At one point, Anna Kathryn had forty-two of them. On one arm.

    Her first silly band came to her from "Aiden's big sister" in the carpool pick-up line at school. After receiving one at a birthday party as a favor, and a bunch more as prizes for Laps for TAPS, a school fundraiser, she began to ask me to get her more. "Sure," I said. "I will look for some that you can share with your friends." "Oh," she replied. "You need to get me a lot, then. I want to keep a whole bunch of them!" She was five, and I considered this a perfect training op. We agreed that silly bands were for sharing, but that we would make sure she had plenty. Honestly, why not use such an inexpensive tool to teach my child how much fun sharing can be?

    Slight problem, though. Where does one find silly bands? I went to the Dollar Tree--always a first resort when it comes to trend items that may break or get lost and must come cheaply. Sorry! The Dollar Tree can not afford to sell these magical plastic bracelets for $1 a bag. Somebody suggested a shoe store. I have no idea why a shoe store would carry these. Jibbits, sure (the decorative buttons you can buy for the holes in Croc shoes), but silly bands?

    My daughter jumped into the car after school asking for her new silly bands five days out of a five-day schoolweek, so finding them was becoming a pressing need for my sanity. Eschewing shoe stores for a place that makes sense, I went to Claire's, the jewelry-slash-cheap-tween-swag store at the mall. The perky sale's associate with the black funky pigtails smiled at me. I wasn't sure if she was sympathetic or condescending, but sadly, silly bands were sold out. (Probably five minutes after being restocked, the way this trend is growing.) I could try the shoe store up the escalator and to the right, she said. And so I did, feeling like ten times a fool, because--again--WHY are shoe stores selling these? Sure enough, though, hanging behind the counter where sticky junior fingers can't reach them, were silly bands. Farm Animal ones. All the other characters were sold out, I was told apologetically. Oh, except for the glow-in-the-dark bands that cost more. Seriously? These small matters do not concern me. My kindergartener asks for a computer for her birthday, and a grown-up camera for Christmas. If she's going to beg me for something that other KIDS love to play with, let's not quibble over price. I handed over my money, and was handed a bag of each kind in return.

    Friends and loved ones, trends like these are gold to a parent. At the playground, my now-six-year-old made friends with three children. When she came back to the blanket where I sat sipping my travel cup of coffee and watching the twins on their bikes, she not only had different bands than before, she had less. My mommy's heart swelled to learn that she had traded with her friends. And then because they loved hers so much, she gave a few more away just for fun. She was not sad to have fewer silly bands; rather, her eyes roved the playground looking for more like-minded friends. And so for a few cents each, my daughter is learning what it feels like to give away what is hers without expectation of anything in return. Just for the joy of giving.

    Silly bands are also great for discipline. We all know that consistency is key to proper discipline, but even within consistency, it helps to shake the consequences up a bit to keep things fresh. John and I have been looking for ways to teach our children to mind using consequences that really motivate our kids to obey without reminders the next time. We use their personal learning styles to tweak our system. I'll be writing a blog one of these days about how this process helped us with potty training the twins (seriously, it's only fun looking back), but I had an epiphany this week when I realized I could use silly bands to help me with Anna Kathryn. One thing about my kids that drives me bonkers is their mob mentality. If one does it, they all do it, because there is strength in numbers. (Or more accurately, I might not have the strength to discipline all three at once.) With the weather turning fine, they've been playing outside in the afternoons after school. One rule John has given them is that they are not to play with the water hose. Of course, the one thing in our backyard that is off limits is the most attractive. I found them all out there dripping wet for the second day in a row, and after stripping them down and giving them baths to wash off the mud, I took the silly bands off Anna Kathryn's wrist. "This is your discipline," I told her. "You have to earn these back with positive behavior." Folks, I won't go into the heartbreaking tears, or all the specifics of what I've required of her. However, let me just say that I've been trying to teach Anna Kathryn how to properly make her bed for six months. For the past three days, that bed has been properly made before she's even come out of her room for breakfast. With eagerness and pride. And she is wearing three silly bands.

    I love these things. I am going to have to keep some on hand for all the summer jobs I hope to get my kids to accomplish for me!

Tuesday, 22 December 2009

  • Christmas for Mommies

    Christmas is fun when you're a mommy. For instance, this weekend I addressed a hundred fifty Christmas cards. And licked them and stamped them. Which was fun. All by myself. And it only took me ten hours, so that was fun. The house is all junked up now, but that just gives the stray roaches something to hide in, which is fun for them.

    And today when William woke up with a fever, I got to take him shopping with me and Anna Kathryn, which is always fun, especially now that he's three and can walk by himself without holding hands, except when he wants to be held because he has a fever. I love holding my babies, so that was fun. And on the escalator when he wanted to stand himself and he fell and almost got his fingers stuck in the treads but didn't, well, I was happy that he didn't. And then I got to hold him some more, which was fun. I love going shopping with my kids. Especially when I have several stores to go to and it's just a quick in-and-out. Because then everyone gets to hold hands and run, which they sometimes actually want to do. So that's fun.

    Last week, I got to take the twins to Schnucks to buy stuff to bake Christmas cookies, which I love to do, especially after I've gotten the kids to bed by which time I'm tired and need pampering, which is always when I have the least self control. So lots of fresh cookies for me, which is fun for my figure.

    Shopping grocery stores is fun with twins, now that they have cars in front of the carts with two seats and two steering wheels. Except when the five-year-old wants to drive. I let her help me push the cart, which usually ends up in cutting an old woman's legs off at the ankles, which is always a hoot. Especially when I thump my kid on the head and somebody else hears them squeal and gives me a dirty look. I think about sending my kids home with them, which is the most fun I've had until we round the corner, and a twin swipes a box of cereal off the shelf with his outstretched hand. The other twin tries to make it a double, which is so fun. They love it when I read them the riot act with lots of other shoppers around.

    Making it through the grocery store during Christmas is a joy by itself, but getting through the checkout line with kids is another delight altogether. Turns out, they stock attractive glass jars of sparkly juice along the checkout lines. I discovered this when two of them smashed at my feet, thanks to a stray three-year-old arm I was unable to catch in time.

    During Christmas, it is especially fun for mommies like me to make a strong cup of Christmas coffee spiked with hot cocoa to help it go down quicker. The four o'clock afternoon pot is the best. I love drinking it standing up while my kids grab my legs and beg for more of those Christmas cookies that mysteriously show up while they sleep. Sometimes, I tell them to go have fun outside. When they complain that it's cold, I remind them of the little children in Antarctica, bundle them in hats and mittens, and send them out anyway. They love banging on the locked back door once their noses start running, so that works out to being fun for everybody.

    At night, when the kids have had one last peek at the twinkling Christmas lights, and William has finished his ten minute rambling prayer that God will "make help" him and Mommy and Daddy and Anna Kathryn and Stephen and Omie and Papa Bill and Grandma and Grandpa be happy (which is fun because my heart melts and gets to keep melting for a long time while he finishes), then I get my last hugs, and little hands wrap around my neck, and I hear, "I love you, Mommy." That's really the most fun part of Christmas. For Mommies, that is.

Tuesday, 03 March 2009

  • Holding up the Wall

    I heard a noise in the kitchen after naptime. I was putting things away in the high cupboards this morning, and left the stool set up, so I suspected that William was looking for snacks on the counters again. Sure enough, I rounded the corner to find him standing on the stool in front of the dishwasher, the open tub of mixed snacks in front of him. He leaned against the wall where my memo board covers the fuse box. "William, you already had your snack!" I urged him away. He looked up at me sideways, "Fall down." He didn't have any snacks in his hands, and the cup he'd been using to store them earlier was absent, too. Well, if he wasn't filching snacks, what was he doing on my stool, anyway? I started to pull him away, when I realized--the memo board had fallen off it's nails, and he was leaning on IT, not the wall, trying to keep it from falling. I had to laugh, but just to myself. His little face was so serious, and he handled it so calmly. I hung it back up and grabbed him in a hug. "Did that scare you?" His face was in my neck, but I could see his sheepish little nod in the reflection from the microwave. My brave little boy didn't even call for help. Probably was afraid to get caught in the act of filching!

    I used to think Anna Kathryn was the calmest of children under stress. But I think William has her beat.

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